I’m coming up on a milestone of sorts, tomorrow will be four weeks since I started on full HRT. It’s been an interesting four weeks, filled with excitement, emotional ups and downs, and the beginnings of changes. I have to admit, I went into HRT hoping for the best, but not really having any set expectations. Getting accurate data on the effects of HRT is pretty much impossible. There are many sites that will talk about the common regimens, the possible effects, the possible side effects, and the fact that results will vary. No two sites or papers seem to give the same perspective on HRT, and, I guess, I can’t blame them for this ambiguity.
The fact of the matter is, HRT is one of the biggest unknowns in the transition process. He know that the hormones will do something to our body, but we don’t know what or to what extent. In my case, I was expecting emotional changes for a few months and then to start noticing physical changes in 3 months or so. My nipples started swelling and hurting after two weeks, and palpable breast buds were present after three weeks. This was a bit surprising to me for a couple of reasons. The first reason being that my doctor starts patients off at a lower dose of estrogen, and the send being that almost everything I read says that these changes start between 3-6 months.
Now, I must be honest, I am not at all disappointed in these rapid changes, I am rather trilled by the fact that my body is responding so quickly to the HRT. I am pleased that my body hair does not grow back to quickly when I shave it. I did no have a lot of chest hair, but what I had seemed to be visible again in less than 24 hours. It was dark in spots, and it grew quickly. I also never felt that I could get a close shave when I removed it. There were always bumps and stubble. Now I shave it, and my chest actually feels smooth, and it was four days or so before I could really notice the re-growth.
These little advances, these victories, really help to bolster my confidence and make me feel like I am making progress. It helps me see that full time is something achievable, and possibly something that will happen sooner than I initially planned. Not that I set hard a fast dates. You could say that my transition schedule is flexible. I thought I would be starting HRT at the end of July, but that happened about three or four weeks sooner. Right now, my plan is to go full time in July of next year, but I think it will happen sooner. My therapist even dropped the suggestion that I probably will not wait that long. I think that she sees my confidence and the fact that I am kind of charging comfortably forward into each step of transition.
The way I like to frame my transition is in terms of how what I am doing feels to me. For so long, things I did in life either did not feel right or I was just completely apathetic about what I was doing. Now each thing I do to move myself towards transition feels right. There are days I look at the transition schedules of others and wonder,”Am I going too fast?” I stop and I think that I am going at the pace that is right for me. We each have out own time line, we cannot judge ourselves or others based on our unique timelines. We have to be comfortable with what we are doing, and sometimes , depending on our family situation, others have to be comfortable and ready for the next step.
I am fortunate to have a spouse who realizes that I need to transition in order to be comfortable and at peace with myself. She realizes that this is something that is part of my core being, and something that I have carried with my for as long as I can remember. For her, it is easier because of our personal situation. We were headed towards divorce. My repression of my gender identity got in the way of our love, and drove us apart. In the end, my coming out saved our friendship and our joint commitment to our children, but the love that was there was lost in many ways. The love that comes with a deep bond of friendship is still there, and it is that friendship that gives her the strength to support and encourage me.
Each step in this journey takes me closer towards living my life in a way that is more genuine, and in a manner that will not only bring happiness to my life, but allow me to give to those who are important to me, bringing more joy into their lives.
Great post! I think you have the right attitude on the pace of your transition. You have a lot of self-confidence, and an understanding and supportive spouse, so it makes sense that you are able to move forward so quickly. In terms of going full-time, I think that at some point you’ll just know it’s time.
The process of transition can be stressful and a little bit scary times, but I like to think of it as a wonderful rebirth. An amazing “do over” of sorts. A chance to finally be yourself, to love yourself, and to love others in a way you that you were incapable of before. A chance to really live life the way it should be lived, with all of your heart.
I’m so happy that you are taking the steps to fully realize your own potential.
Girl, you are moving at warp speed, but if it is working for you, then you are doing it right. Your hormones are really kicking in fast! Feeling the itching and tenderness in your breasts is nothing new, but to actually SEE progress this soon is unusual. I hope your body can take the changes well and your emotions can adapt. If your physique become obvious to others, it will be time to go full-time. I hope that you are getting rid of your facial hair ASAP, That is easier to do before your go full-time and before the hormones really kick in and make your skin really tender. I hope that you are getting out and about en femme as much as possible and learning to feel comfortable as a woman in all situations. You have quite a transition workload. Good luck on your jouney!